Never Forgotten…

I wanted to finally share on here the Eulogy and Obituary I wrote for my dad, It has taken me a few months to be able to open them again and read them, and to finally put up his pictures in my house. I still wake up feeling like its not real, that he can’t really be gone. I hope he was proud of me, and that I can carry on the legacy he left behind….

EULOGY

I remember once when I was little, I was crying to my dad, he said Julie come back to me when you’re not emotional and talk rationally. I remember crying but I’m a girl, I’m emotional and I don’t even know what rational means.  I laugh about this story as an adult because that was my dad. He was brilliant, logical and theoretical but when it came to me also impatient; my mom always told me I was just like my dad and in truth I am my father’s daughter. I am a scientist to his engineer, I think like him, I have his logical mind, his intensity, his need for structure and also his impatience; but I was also blessed with his curiosity, his tenacity, and love of learning, always needing to know why and how things worked. He often loved to remind me that as an engineer he created what I just studied, and as usual he was right.

My dad loved camping, mostly he loved his Drifting Sams RV group, and going to Quartzside every year.  Camping was truly his other love next to my mom. Growing up he took us every year for our annual family vacation, though in those days it was tents and a camper shell, not the Glamorous 5th wheels he has owned with my mom. He loved taking us outdoors when we were little, to watch meteor showers with his telescope, my brother’s dirt bike riding, flying model airplanes, and to Indian guides. I beat him at cards, even at 5, so he stopped playing with me, he was a sore loser.

My Dad was a good man, he treated people fairly, he was the first to step up, offer help, money and support to anybody in need.  He taught me to never pass a hungry person with an offer to feed them. He gave my friend a car once, it was called the pay it forward car…that was just the kind of human he was.  He was a devoted husband to my mom, a dedicated father and he was the hardest working man I ever knew. He taught me so much. He was fair, honest and had such integrity. He loved his family, the Mathison clan is a strong one, and we are forged by the same mold. We all have the stubbornness, dry witty sense of humor, love of debating and devotion to our family. My dad will be so greatly missed by so many, especially by my mom, the love of his life for 48 years. I look out at this sea of faces and think that my dad did not even begin to know or understand how loved he was, how huge of an impact he had made on so many. He is now a part of the great energy among the cosmos that will forever be a piece of all of us, as one can never be truly lost or forgotten as long as they are loved and remembered in our hearts. There will be those days that we will remember and miss him, cry and scream at the universe for what it has taken away from us. It is this that will allow us to grieve for him bit by bit for we must mourn and go on…life will insist…I loved him, my dad, I will carry him with me always, I will miss him forever…

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 OBITUARY

Bennett James Mathison was born March 31, 1946 in Whittier CA to Kenneth and Lucille Mathison. A resident of Bakersfield CA, Ben passed away suddenly in his home of a heart attack on Thursday August 6, 2015 he was 69 years old. He is survived by his loving wife of 48 years, Martha, one daughter Julie and two sons Mike and Mark and his four loving canine companions Cheyenne, Skye, Lady and Angel.

Ben attended Don Bosco Technical Institute and graduated cum laude from California Polytechnic University, Pomona with a Bachelor of Science degree in Electrical Engineering. He started his own independent consulting company Medcomm/Micro-Log in 1988, and also worked as a Chief Engineering consultant at ProSoft Technologies. Ben was an engineer to the core; he was driven, dedicated and tenacious. His favorite saying was “Scientist study what is, Engineers create what has never been” by Theodore Von Karman.

Ben loved camping and fishing with his wife in his 5th Wheel RV with their Roaming Sam Group. He was a devoted husband and dedicated father, and always the first to offer a helping hand. He enjoyed astronomy, his telescope and was an active member of the NRA. He will be fondly remembered by many for his witty sense of humor and love of debating, along with his boisterous laughter. Ben will be forever missed by many, he is now part of the great energy among the cosmos that will forever be a part of all of us as one can never truly be lost or forgotten as long as they are loved and remembered in our hearts.

One thought on “Never Forgotten…

  1. Erica says:

    You’re dad sounds like a total Aries! Sounds like a very manly old school guy who loved his camping, awesome. And also sounded highly intelligent. I liked reading about you guys…..you definitely have a lot in common! This was very personal and tender, thanks for sharing your memories of him with me. I know you miss him and trust me I know how it feels to miss a family member, my mom, and now my brother. HUGS.

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